Obsession is not about the object of the thoughts and dreams that so occupy the mind of the obsessed individual. The rock star. The next door neighbor. Sex. Baseball cards. It’s about the great invisible hurt the individual is avoiding.

To gain release from an obsession, look in your rear view mirror and see what it is you are running away from. If you approach and address what you find there, the obsession will fade.

Of course, you will not believe this because you’re convinced of the perfection of and need for the object that’s always on your mind. If you are truly obsessed, nothing I could say would convince you otherwise.

So hold close your obsessive thoughts and desires. Do you have a choice? But. There is nothing to be lost and much to be gained by examining closely what you see in that rear view mirror.